Welcome
First off – welcome to my online, ever evolving writing project. I hope to contribute somewhat regularly as we start this adventure into the whole world of Army recruiting. I needed a haven where I can discuss the in’s and out’s of being an Army recruiter’s wife and what it is like for the families, not to mention the “process” from pre-recruiting duty all the way to the end . I really have no idea what is in store for us and our little family, so as I learn I will relay it here for you, my readers. I know my husband’s job will be tough on him and us – which I am sure will provide me with much material to write about. So now, I leave you to explore my blog and hope that my site will be easy for you to navigate. Oh – and please excuse any mis-spellings, mis-use of grammar, and random letters or punctuation – not only is my mouse and keyboard wireless (and I have a glass desk) but sometimes I have a little helper sitting in my lap trying to type too.
Thanks,
Brandy
26 Responses to "Welcome"
October 13, 2008 at 6:21 pm
i think its great to see you dedicating a site to recruiting. My DH was DA select 3 years ago and i would be happy to answer any questions as I am also the FRG leader and have come across many resourses since i have been here.
We have 7 months left and is counting down. Keep Your head up. I know what its like to move from east to west and be from the South in Cali.
November 9, 2008 at 2:16 pm
You have the right attitude Brandy. I see my BFF in recruiting posted above and it would not have been as successful for us without her. Find another wife in your company or station with your same great attitude and you will survive.
December 16, 2008 at 6:49 pm
Ahhh…Jen how sweet…without you I would not have the knowledge of Recruiting and the Army. You have helped me the last 2 1/2 years more then you will ever know.
December 28, 2008 at 5:10 pm
I just found your site. We are currently with the Harrisburg (PA) Battalion. I just wanted to say hello. We are currently in our 6th year of recruiting and have 8 more years to go. Hubby was NOT DA selected, we volunteered and came into recruiting blind. If you ever have any questions feel free to e-mail me. I only see horror stories lately and am glad to see that you are focusing on the positive aspects, making the best of it and actually supporting your soldier.
November 10, 2010 at 4:17 pm
Hi! I was wondering how the recuiting has been going since this post is older. Also, what challanges your husband has faced in his new job, your family, ect. Thank you! Kara
January 5, 2009 at 9:03 am
Hi my Husband just find outhe will be a recruiter and starts school in May at Ft. Jackson, I will definitely be following your blog I have sooo many questions and concerns!
March 12, 2009 at 1:46 pm
Thanks for sharing! We are starting the life… I was wondering if you would mind if I put your site on my blogroll… Thanks. Feel free to contact me!
March 26, 2009 at 10:09 pm
Hi Brandy, thank you so much for your blog. You’ve helped answer many questions that I have. My husband was DA selected last year (during a tour in the sandbox) and he leaves for school very soon. I do have a few questions if that would be ok. If you have time to chat then please let me know. 
Thanks!
Jenn
http://recruiterswife.wordpress.com
April 19, 2009 at 8:24 am
Hello..my dh has been recruiting for 15 months. I’m glad to have found this site!
May 27, 2009 at 1:39 am
Helly, thank you for your information. Im interested in doing tour in Recruiting. All of the stories ive heard thus far werent very good. If there is any way I could ask you some more questions on your experience or your husbands, it would really be helpfull.
Thanks
September 29, 2009 at 9:42 pm
My husband was DA selected to be a recruiter and I am entering this new part of the army world blind. We have been in the army for 5 years now and this is the first time I really feel unprepared, but I cant tell you how relieved I am to have somewhere to turn when I have no where else to look. Thank you for taking the time to help out the wives like myself!
April 26, 2010 at 3:23 am
You’re welcome and I hope you come back and visit and let me know how your experience is going!
March 1, 2010 at 4:03 pm
My husband has just been DA selected, he currently has about two years TIS remaining, but I see online that recruiting is a minimum three year commitment. Why would the Army chose him when they know he has less than the required time left? What are our options?
April 26, 2010 at 3:22 am
He’ll have to re-enlist to cover the time he’ll be in recruiting. I don’t know too many options of getting out of recruiting, especially since he was DA selected, that aren’t detrimental to his career. HTH.
April 23, 2010 at 5:13 pm
I am so glad I found this site. My husband is in recruiter school now and we will be moving in June. He just finished his 3rd deployment “over there” and pretty much opted to go recruiter. He called branch, they offered it to him and he accepted. However, he is still considered DA selected. I am so nervous about all of this. His main reason for doing it was to avoid another deployment. He has 16 years in already so I think this will be a good change for him. For me, I am not so sure. We have been married 7 years and I am so used to the army community that living no-where near an army base scares me. I will definitly bookmark this site and I believe it is going to help me alot.
April 26, 2010 at 3:20 am
Just try and maintain a positive attitude – it’ll be tough – recruiting isn’t easy. But, if you just take everything in stride and get involved – it’ll help. It is a shock moving from a military community to a civilian community but still being Army. The best advice I can offer on getting prepared is to learn as much as you can about Tricare – since being in recruiting that is one of the issues I’ve seen come up a lot. (in network versus out of network, prime versus prime remote versus standard) Get a handbook before you leave your post. I wish you all the best and hope you enjoy the site.
May 27, 2010 at 2:23 am
Hello,
I am so happy that I have found this site. But first I wanna introduce myself. My name is Anja, I met my hubby in 2003 and we got married in 2005. We have two daughters (age 2 and 3) and a Boxer. He was just home on R&R. It is our 3rd deployment, the last one was even 15 months. So…on Mother’s Day he was like….Baby I got an email….and I was like….about what….and he was like….I got an Assignment for Recruiting School….and I was like….well, tell them you dont wanna do it ….didnt know that it means he got orders. He explained it to me and when I realized he has no chance to get out of it….I just started crying. I expected everything but recruiting. I read so many stories last night……only bad and terrible things. I always thought once we move to the States (I am from Germany), I will be living at a Base, familiar with the Commissary and PX and all the good stuff. Army wives near me and probably meet other Germans. Now I am just horrified to move, dont know what to expect. I am just so scared. I heard they work long long hours, dont wanna complain about that, because at the end of the day he will be home with us. I am sick and tired of deployments, but thats the only good thing I can say about my feelings right now. On one hand I wanna move close to my in-laws on the other hand I dont. I just have messed up feelings all over me. I hope and wish we will find out soon, were we are going to be stationed at. Or do we find out after he finished school?? How long does it take to find out?? Can he choose where he wants to go?? Is it easy to get out of recruiting again, once he did the 3 years?? He is even thinking of becoming a permanent recruiter if he likes it. I mean, he can talk, he could even sell dirt to China. Ahhh I just dont know what to think. Owe and by the way, my husband is from Arkansas, so maybe some of you understand why I dont wanna move close to his in-laws. I have been there many times for vacation and it is really njice, I just cant imagine living there. I just dont know, maybe I am just thinking too much about it. Owe one more question…do we still have a chance to get stationed close to a base??? Thanks in advance. I really wish I can get some cheer up and help here. Greetings from Germany…Anja
August 31, 2010 at 12:22 am
Hello,
I guess that I am here looking for advice. My husband has been in the Army for a little over ten years. He has been on four deployments, only one of which we have been together during. We have both been married prior to our marriage to each other and we have both been cheated on during those marraiges. He has been a recruiter for nearly five months. I now wish that I had not suggested this change for our lives. We have a child and he was deployed most of the first year of our childs life. During that last deployment I kept suggesting that he put in a recruiting packet. When he returned from the deployment and attended a couple of mandatory schools he decided that it was time to take a step back and be home with his family. Well, I am wondering if I pushed him or if he just made the wrong decision.
Sure it is great that he did not deploy with the unit that he left to go recruiting since there have been several casualties (some friends), and he is home at night. However, he has changed. He is excelling at recruitng but our marriage is suffering. I don’t know if it is because he likes his job now and has nothing to complain about or if it is just me. We had the relationship that all of our friends and acquaintances wanted. Now, I am looking at others relationships and wishing I had theirs.
How is this so hard? I don’t know how I am just supposed to be happy (as he says I should be) that he is not deployed when, in my head, he might as well be. He offers no affection anymore, and that is because he says it is hard to when I ask him things or (in his mind) “nag” him when he gets home. He never wants me to have any other emotion that just being happy. I am a woman…..we have a wide range of emotions. If that is what he expects I told him that I would just go to the doctor and get on medication that controls emotion (an MAOI). I know this must sound crazy or atleast unreal. I want to assure all of you that I am a woman who has been a part of the Army one way or another for the majority of my life. I am an educated woman who is closing in on her 30′s and have always considered myself pretty rational and justified in thoughts and actions. Also, I am a nurse (have not worked since having our child) and understand that medication is not the cure all, and certainly cannot fix our issues, but what could having less emotion about anything hurt? This is not something that I really want to do but would to make his life easier. I just want my life that was left at the Army post back. We both disliked it there but atleast we loved each other and wanted to be together. We thought we wanted this but I would give all of the added luxuries since we have moved back for the love and affection of my husband. What do I do? I am grateful that he gets a break from the deployments but believe I deserve the love and affection I once had from him. Please offer advice if you have any. Also, I do not believe or even have the slightest inclination that he could be having an affair, I know he loves me but I just want to feel it.
Thank you.
November 16, 2010 at 4:50 am
Hi V,
Just wondering if anything has changed with your situation. I hope it has gotten better. I’ve been a recruiter’s wife for 6 years and would be more than happy to chat with you if you need. Feel free to email me at xtine6i8@gmail.com.
Christine
September 22, 2010 at 9:55 pm
i have a question and dont know where to turn i am active army and failed my apft test and was never counciled now when i have another apft test tomorrow i was told since i hurt my foot and cant take this apft retake i am going to be flagged for my last pt test. can they do that? or do i need to talk to ig?
tabitha: my ssgt called and fussed me out because i talked to my ssg neighbor and he said they were screwing me over and i needed to talk to my 1sgt or ig
November 10, 2010 at 4:12 pm
Hi! I am new to this site, my husband is starting recuiting in dec . We have been at our current duty station seven long yrs and three long deployments! Im just looking for what to expect, since its been a while since we’ve been out in the real world. Lol..
November 11, 2010 at 6:40 am
hello kara, i only posted once and i never got a reply. my husband starts recruiting in march. we are stationed in germany and we still dont know where we are going. if you want send me your email. my husband has been in the army for 10 years and we are together since 7, so i dont know what to expect, since you basically live a civilian life. i am kind of scared too. i also have a fb page and i am on yahoo. so if you wanna chit chat, just let me know. i searched the internet for recruiting wife pages, but i couldnt find anything, not even a forum 
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November 14, 2010 at 11:11 am
my email is karalrowbury@yahoo.com I am also on facebook! Thank you for the reply
November 16, 2010 at 4:47 am
Hi Kara and Anja,
I’ve been an Army wife for 10 years and a recruiter’s wife for 6. We’ve been in 3 battalions and each one have been very different. My husband is an AGR recruiter (meaning he volunteered) and will probably stay in USAREC for the remainder of his career. I’d be happy to answer any questions for you. Feel free to email me at xtine618@gmail.com.
September 27, 2008 at 7:36 am
I am new to this site and was hoping it would give me some insite on life as a recruiters life as a wife. My husband will be a recruiter soon, as he was given his orders while still serving in Iraq.